Family dynamics are the interactions that exist between, and are influenced by each member of the family. The personal relationships within each family are influenced by the family structure, roles of family members, cultural background, values, rituals and shared experiences. Family experiences from previous generations also influence the dynamics of present day families. When addiction is present family members can respond (or react) in a variety of ways to cope with or change the addict’s behavior or circumstance.

Unfortunately until addiction itself is addressed with a meaningful solution, behavior and circumstance will inevitably and progressively deteriorate. This is true for not only the addict, but their family as well. Children in particular are extremely vulnerable to the behaviors and circumstances that exist in a family impacted by addiction. They are usually the first ones affected, and the last to receive help. Professionals refer to alcoholism and addiction as a family disease because of the effects addiction has on the family. Just like the alcoholic or addict, family members experience a progressive deterioration of their physical, emotional, and spiritual health. The all encompassing devastation that accompanies addiction never occurs in a vacuum, it touches all those close to it.

Fear, anger, shame, guilt, denial, anxiety, chaos, hopelessness, insecurity, powerlessness, blame, mistrust, rage, dishonesty, manipulation, irresponsibility, insanity – just some of the things experienced by families living with addiction. Over time, a family can be so overwhelmed it is unable to help itself. The family dynamic becomes dysfunctional. So dysfunctional in some families, that efforts meant to control or put an end to drinking or using, actually help sustain it. Left untreated the family dysfunction, and the addiction can extend itself into future generations. Treatment is available. Addicts and their families can and do recover. In fact they do it all the time.

With education, guidance and support, empowered through love, compassion and unity addicts and their families all over the world are living lives of integrity, dignity, meaning and usefulness. Their journey, like every journey began with taking that first step.